Having a positive attitude is the key to being happy and leading a successful life, our thoughts play a huge role in how we feel and positive thinking leads to a confident person happy in life, while negativity leads to low self-esteem and you missing out on so much in life. We so often talk ourselves out of things without even realizing we are doing so, everyday hundreds of negative thoughts drift freely through our mind, we put ourselves down too much and sow the seeds of doubt. There is a small simple tool that you can use throughout the day to help to change these negative thoughts and instil a more positive way of thinking; using daily positive affirmations can change your life drastically for the better. They can make you more confident, more aware, more sure of yourself and change your life in many more aspects for the better.
What are positive affirmations?
Positive affirmations can be used throughout the day anywhere and at anytime you need them, the more you use them the easier positive thoughts will take over negative ones and you will see benefits happening in your life. An affirmation is a simple technique that is used to change negative self-talk that we are rarely even aware of doing, into looking at your life with a more positive attitude. Most of us have for many years bombarded ourselves with negative thoughts so changing your thoughts and the way you think won’t happen overnight but if you stick with affirmations they will work once you have retrained your way of thinking. There are many different affirmation techniques for dealing with different situations in life and the most popular and successful are listed below.
The mirror technique
This technique helps you to appreciate yourself and develop self-awareness and self-esteem, you should stand in front of a mirror, preferably a full length one in either just your underwear or better still naked. Start at your head and working down your body say out loud what it is you like about areas of your body, for example you could say “I like the way my hair shines, the slight differences in color where the light hits it” or “ my eyes are a lovely shade of _ _ _ _. They sparkle and glint; my eyes are a wonderful feature” take the time and go slowly over all your body building up a more positive image of yourself.
The anywhere technique
This technique can be used anywhere and whenever you catch yourself thinking a negative thought, when you realize you are having a negative thought think of yourself turning down a volume knob inside your head so that you turn it down low enough so as not to hear it any longer. Then think a positive affirmation to replace the negative and turn the volume back up repeating it to yourself.
The trashcan technique
If you have negative thoughts write them down on a scrap of paper, screw the paper up into a ball and throw it into the trashcan, by doing this you are telling yourself these thoughts are nothing but rubbish and that’s where they belong.
The meditation technique
Find somewhere quiet where you able to relax for 5 or 10 minutes close your eyes and let your mid empty of all thoughts and feelings. Begin to repeat your affirmation to yourself over and over again while concentrating on the words you are repeating and believe in what you are saying.
Affirmations are self-talk statements & better presented to the subconscious. These fresh images are viewed as “credible” by the subconscious & are placed in the area of subconscious having to do with the power to enhance the ability to pull up particular powerful memories with less work. Through this special imagery a person can develop the inner tools for the correct mindset for gaining inner peace, letting the memories and images be transported to the here and now where they’re used for enhancing mindset which is crucial for inner peace.
Why Do We Need Affirmations For Inner Peace?
Oftentimes individuals believe these good and beneficial self talk memories are a false belief and don’t exist, but the subconscious recognizes where they’re located and will pull them ahead for inner peace. These forms of affirmations make fresh neural tracts in the mind, enhancing the ability to “see” these fresh powerful images. Stale images related to negativity, weaknesses, deficiency of initiative, frail goal images and the ability to develop inner peace are decreased. When the mind discovers new affirmations the subconscious sees them as “tangible.”
You’ve likely observed a common element in those who are successful in business and in life. These winners and successful individuals tend to be enthusiastic and zealous, in all aspects of their lives. This exuberance can be infectious, and it tends to rub off on all those persons around them. A positive attitude and the might to turn that attitude into results are crucial to inner peace, both in business and life. You see, a positive attitude is a valuable asset, no matter what you are trying to do. You really ought to assume the habit of doing regular positive affirmations. Making positive affirmations a part of your daily function is a great way to alter your thoughts and help yourself be more peaceful.
It’s never too early or too late to begin this cycle of positive affirmations, and even those just beginning down a new road may benefit from a positive attitude. Even if the thing you’re trying to accomplish seems insignificant and you are not yet spiritually enlightened, it’s crucial to display a positive attitude, and not let negativity sneak in to steal your thunder. Remember that some of the most successful people began as not spiritually enlightened and worked their way into having inner peace. It truly is possible to work your way up from being not spiritually enlightened to being peaceful, but without positive affirmations and a victorious attitude, this move won’t be possible.
Steady positive affirmations are extremely crucial for those people who want to develop inner peace. Building inner peace is never easy, but it’s crucial to remember that those around you, from people you’re involved with to clients to competitors, feel your attitude, and utilize it as a cue. If you’re constantly complaining about the deficiency in knowing how to have spiritually enlightenment, the people around you will be less than energized. If, on the other hand, you’re constantly supplying positive affirmations to yourself and the people around you, even in the hardest of times, they’ll see your exuberance, learn from it, and utilize it as a cue to see you as truly peaceful. It truly does all come down to attitude; a positive mental attitude and positive affirmations can help your inner peace in ways too many to mention here.
Pain may sometimes be the reason why people change. Getting flunked grades make us realize that we need to study. Debts remind us of our inability to look for a source of income. Being humiliated gives us the ‘push’ to speak up and fight for ourselves to save our face from the next embarrassments. It may be a bitter experience, a friend’s tragic story, a great movie, or an inspiring book that will help us get up and get just the right amount of motivation we need in order to improve ourselves.
With the countless negativeness the world brings about, how do we keep motivated? Try the tips I prepared from A to Z!
A: Achieve your dreams. Avoid negative people, things and places. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
B: Believe in your self, and in what you can do.
C: Consider things on every angle and aspect. Motivation comes from determination. To be able to understand life, you should feel the sun from both sides.
D: Don’t give in and don’t give up. Thomas Edison failed once, twice, more than thrice before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. Make motivation as your steering wheel.
E: Enjoy. Work as if you don’t need money. Dance as if nobody’s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you’ll live forever. Motivation takes place when people are happy.
F: Family and Friends – are life’s greatest ‘F’ treasures. Don’t loose sight of them.
G: Give more than what is enough. Where does motivation and self-improvement take place at work? At home? At school? When you exert extra effort in doing things.
H: Hang on to your dreams. They may dangle in there for a moment, but these little stars will be your driving force.
I: Ignore those who try to destroy you. Don’t let other people to get the best of you. Stay out of toxic people – the kind of friends who hates to hear about your success.
J: Just be yourself. The key to success is to be yourself. And the key to failure is to try to please everyone.
K: Keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. When a person is motivated, eventually he sees a harsh life finally clearing out, paving the way to self-improvement.
L: Learn to love your self. Now isn’t that easy?
M: Make things happen. Motivation is when your dreams are put into work clothes.
N: Never lie, cheat or steal. Always play a fair game.
O: Open your eyes. People should learn the horse attitude and horse sense. They see things in 2 ways – how they want things to be, and how they should be.
P: Practice makes perfect. Practice is about motivation. It lets us learn repertoire and ways on how can we recover from our mistakes.
Q: Quitters never win. And winners never quit. So, choose your fate – are you going to be a quitter? Or a winner?
R: Ready yourself. Motivation is also about preparation. We must hear the little voice within us telling us to get started before others will get on their feet and try to push us around. Remember, it wasn’t raining when Noah build the ark.
S: Stop procrastinating!
T: Take control of your life. Discipline or self control jives synonymously with motivation. Both are key factors in self-improvement.
U: Understand others. If you know very well how to talk, you should also learn how to listen. Yearn to understand first, and to be understood the second.
V: Visualize it. Motivation without vision is like a boat on a dry land.
W: Want it more than anything. Dreaming means believing. And to believe is something that is rooted out from the roots of motivation and self-improvement.
X: X Factor is what will make you different from the others. When you are motivated, you tend to put on “extras” on your life like extra time for family, extra help at work, extra care for friends, and so on.
Y: You are unique. No one in this world looks, acts, or talks like you. Value your life and existence, because you’re just going to spend it once.
Z: Zero in on your dreams and go for it!!!
So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self-esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self-improvement.
Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self-esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?
Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self-esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.
Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self-esteem, as well as to your self-improvement scheme.
Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it.
Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativeness of the world. In building self-esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.
Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self-esteem and drawing lines for self-improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you – “George, you may now have the permission to build self-esteem and improve your self.”
In life, it’s hard to stay tough specially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battlefield, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bulletproof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.
Building self-esteem will eventually lead to self-improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self-esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self-esteem brings about self-improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self-esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self-esteem, your starter guide to self-improvement.
While the majority of people do actively try to take care of their physical health by exercising and eating a sensible diet most don’t stop to think about the other side that completes a happy, healthy individual, their mental health.
Here are some tips for excellent self-care:
Treat your body – while we exercise to take care of our body we should also remember to give it a treat, pamper it a little. This could be by way of a massage after a hard days work when it is tired and stressed or something as simple as standing up and giving it a stretch to ease knotted muscles.
Take time out – refresh your body and mind by giving yourself some space, some time just for you, this could be as little as five minutes where you find peace and solitude by closing your eyes and deep breathing. The longer you can take time out from your busy day just for yourself the better.
Let your inner child out – can you remember how much simpler life was when you were a child; go back to your childhood for a short while. Do something you used to enjoy doing as a child, this could be anything from rollerblading, lying on your back and finding shapes in the clouds, making a daisy chain or playing on a swing.
Comfort yourself – we all have something that comforts us in times when we need it, something that make us feel safe and secure. Take time out to comfort yourself every now and again. This could be sitting in front of a roaring fire and watching the flames dance, relaxing in a hot bubble bath surrounded by candlelight, snuggling up in a favorite blanket or a particular smell that relaxes you.
Relax in fantasy – take time out to go out of your world and into another, this could be by way of a book, magazine or film. Or better yet visualization; go into your own fantasy world, created by your own mind.
Treat yourself to a mental health day – treat yourself to a whole day of just doing whatever it is you enjoy doing, don’t do any work or even think or feel guilty about what you should be doing. Just make the day all about you.
Rediscover nature – reconnect with the world around you by taking a long walk through the park, notice how green the grass is and how blue the sky and marvel at the weird and wonderful shapes of the clouds drifting over the sky.
Do something you keep putting off – take time out to do something you have been meaning to do for a long time. Don’t keep putting it off, make today the day to do it.
These are just some of the ways you can help to improve your health by taking care of your mental health, just open your mind and be more aware of your body and mind and you will discover many other ways to take care of your mental health which ultimately leads to a happier and healthier you, overall.
Taking Care of Yourself
Taking good care of yourself means eating a healthy diet, getting exercise on a daily basis and learning to relax and take care of your mental health. It is only when our bodies and mind are in union can we feel and be totally healthy and fit, there are many ways that you can ensure you take good care of yourself and which can enable you to live not only a healthier lifestyle, but also a much happier one.
Learn to let your feelings out, a problem shared is a problem halved, so find someone you can trust and in your times of need lend their shoulder. At the very least get your feelings out by writing them down in a daily journal.
Never put anyone above yourself, by comparing yourself to others you are frequently putting yourself down and this can lead to low self-esteem or feelings of envy.
Take time out of your day to just do something which you enjoy doing. By taking a half-hour from the day and just devoting this time entirely to yourself, you are telling yourself that you are worthy.
When things are getting you down remember to smile, always look for the funny side of any situation no matter how bad it is.
Use whatever self-help methods work best for you to help you to relax more easily. There are a variety of methods you can use, including audio CDS, books, DVDS, exercise classes, meditation or yoga classes. In order to be happy and healthy you have to be able to release stress before it builds up.
Don’t allow anyone to put you up on a pedestal; this will lead you to believe you have let someone down when things don’t go right.
If your work is getting you down then ask yourself, are you in the right work? It is also important to remember that there are always some thing’s that every one dislikes about their work. Take the good and bad into account and weigh them up.
Remember to take short breaks throughout the day, if at work then this could be something as simple as stretching your arms, legs and back by taking a walk to the coffee machine.
Practices developing a more positive attitude towards everything in your life, if there is something you are not happy about, ask yourself what you need to do to change things.
Get some form of exercise everyday, exercise helps to ward off diseases, makes us feel better, sleep better and is a great form of stress relief.
Eat a sensible diet that includes plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables while cutting down on fatty foods, salt and starch.
Keep a journal; this can benefit you in many ways by allowing you to get your thoughts and feelings out.
Make goals that you work towards to achieve what it is you want out of life. And always remember to be grateful for everything you have, no matter how small it is. Having a grateful mindset improves your world as well.
Being grateful is one of the best traits that you should strife in obtaining in your. You should remember to give gratitude for all the things that you have obtain in your life, whether is is big or small. Being grateful is a wonderful way to attract more positive things into your life. This includes being thankful for those persons who bring positive support to your life.
Potential Benefits of Gratitude
Gratitude will also offer you with valuable benefits that you can make use in your entire life.
It is not enough to say the words “thank you” to someone who did something good to or for you.
It is also important that you show them how you really appreciate the things that they have done
Better Moods and Less Stress
If you have ever noticed, most people that are truly grateful are happier than those people who are not. It is also true that grateful thinking has the ability to improve your mood throughout your day.
Gratitude reduces depression and anxiety. In order for you to enhance your moods and eliminate
those unwanted stresses, notice things that happen around you that bring good feelings or outcomes, say “I am grateful for….” & really feel it!
More Gain, Less Pain
Being grateful will also help you obtain a wide variety of health benefits that include a stronger immune system, lower your blood pressure and reduce the possible risks that stress can have on your body.
A better sleep is one of the things that you need to be thankful for since not everyone experiences
a good nights sleep. In order for you to attain the personal power perfection, you need to be grateful even for those simple things that come into your life.
Expressing gratefulness to your close friend or partner has the ability to enhance your relationship bonds. This can also help you decide which relationships to continue & which ones have run their course & is time to end those that do not bring positive benefits to your life.
In order to protect your personal power, being grateful to every single thing that comes into your life is really important. The potential benefits of gratitude that are stated above can greatly help you in appreciating the real aspects of personal power perfection.
Loving yourself is considered as one of the most important factors that you must know and possess. Just like what the bible says “love your neighbors as you love yourself”. In this phrase, you can understand that you need to love everything around you including yourself.
The following are some of the basics on how to start loving your own self to attain the significance of personal power perfection.
Get Rid Of the Anger and Grief
According to most researchers, this is the first factor that you need to follow. In order for you to move passed this first step, you write a journal that contains things that might still be upsetting you about things that have happened in your past.
After you have written down everything you have thought of, tear the page up & through it away! This might sound silly but I’ve done this & it really does work to clear these feelings out of you.
In this way, you can easily wash out the anger and grief that you are feeling inside. This kind of process is also known as catharsis, it simply means that you want to purify yourself until you are completely pure. It is a kind of cleansing process that is highly recommended to clean your soul’s dirt.
The next step that you should do is to forgive yourself for all the things that you have done wrong or think you might have done wrong. When you completely forgive yourself, it is the perfect time to forgive other people for the things that they also done to you. In order for you to completely forgive yourself, you need to let go all the bad memories that hurts you in the past and continue a brighter life in the future.
Build Positive Experiences
To completely start loving yourself, every single day of your life, you can start each day by writing in your journal positive things about yourself. You can also write down good things that you admire about people who are part of your life. Then when you go to bed, reread the list you made that morning, in this way you will fall asleep with a positive frame of mind.
Keeping these suggestions in mind will serve as your helpful guide in changing your life in a positive way. And remember, this is a new skill you are working on so if you stumble, don’t give yourself a hard time about it. As Dory says in Finding Nemo…”Just Keep Swimming”
From rags to riches – it happens more often than you might think. In fact, it could be you! Are you content with life as it is or do you find yourself dreaming your way to riches? If you answered yes, then you are definitely on the right track because without your imagination – without dreaming – you are not going to get there!
Have you ever wondered why some people with equal opportunities land up in such different places – one person is living in wealth with all the comforts of home, while the other person struggles to even pay their rent. Why the difference? It’s really quite simple, yet for far too many it remains a mystery – it’s all about what you are thinking.
If that sounds confusing, you aren’t alone! The trouble is we actually create our reality but what we are thinking and dreaming. Here’s a question. When you are talking with friends or family, how do you describe yourself? Your life? Are you always talking about how you struggle? Are you saying things like “I was never meant to be rich?” or are you talking about how successful you are how great life is how you have so much abundance. Which describes you? If you are the latter, you are in great shape. However, if you are the person who sees yourself as struggling, that’s exactly where you will stay.
We all have ideas from our childhoods implanted deep into our subconscious and if you want to change your future, you need to reprogram your subconscious. You need to see yourself as wealthy, having all that you desire, creating the riches that will fulfill your dreams.
Every thought that makes its way to your subconscious through any one of your senses is recorded and filed in your brain. You can voluntarily implant any thought you would like into your mind and your subconscious will act on it. Your subconscious will dominate your desires and it will direct you. You have complete control over your subconscious mind and so you set yourself up for failure or success – for living the life of a poor person or the life of a rich person.
You simply need the stimuli to influence your subconscious mind to go in the direction you desire. You simply need to imprint your desires in your mind and then have the faith that your desires will become your reality. So start dreaming big today and tomorrow you can enjoy the riches.