14 Sep

Create The Reality You Want

It is not always easy to do & if you are like me, something you work on every day. Focusing on the positive is a skill we need to work on & it will eventually become easier to do.  One  little shift in our thinking can bring some amazing results, so always be grateful for everything you have, big & small!

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01 Aug

3 Ways To Improve Your Self Belief And Grow From Your Mistakes

 

Self esteem describes how we feel about ourselves. Our self esteem or sense of self worth is normally based on our perception of our abilities and how we believe other people accept and value us as individuals. We automatically find ourselves accepting those beliefs and they feel like ‘reality’ to us.

To be successful in goal setting you need to do more than just plan and write down your goals. You need to change your mind set and challenge some of the biggest fears that you have, and equally as importantly, develop your own self-belief. Goal setting can help you achieve success and happiness in your life. Remember, success in life is determined by yourself concept. You should therefore do everything in your power to improve your positive feelings about yourself while holding on to your humility.

Here are some proven ways to increase your self esteem:

– How do you feel about yourself?

Self-belief is how you feel about yourself. Self-esteem is determined by your internal feelings and evaluation of yourself based on your “perceived” self-image. If you are constantly comparing yourself to others and feel like you don’t measure up, your self-esteem suffers. In this life, one has the ability to change whichever negative self-images he or she has acquired. Sadly, many people never ask if the negative beliefs they have picked up are true.

Also, learning appreciation and gratitude is a sure-fire way to make you feel good. Acknowledge all your good qualities. Take some time to write down as many as you can. Read them over and over and feel the positive energy grow in you. Be grateful for the value of what you are gifted with. Reward yourself with whatever you feel you deserve.

– Success has to come from strength

Everyone has his or her own strengths including you. Your strengths have passions because they are the ones you must develop. Examine positions where you can apply your abilities and then get trained for them. Dream more about what you desire to accomplish and set an ambition to achieve it. You can accomplish what you focus on long enough. In order to develop your self esteem, you must love who you are, while acknowledging that your personal unique qualities make a valuable contribution to humanity. Know that people who in your eyes tend to be better off also have problems as well despite what they portray to you. Start to think more positive and circumstances around you will become more positive and this in turn will improve your self esteem.

– Growth

You must grow. Universal law mandates this. While you are reading this article stars are exploding, water is creating new lakes and streams and brand new babies are entering this wonderful world every single minute of the day! Our world continues to expand and grow and you are a part of this growth. Stay away from people you feel criticize you and make you feel inadequate and worthless.

Conclusion:

Improving and developing your self-belief into a positive is the best first step you can take on building the new you. Understand and accept these concepts and you are on the road to building your self-belief. Positive, positive, positive is the answer. Create positive thoughts toward your unconditional worth and unconditional love.

02 Nov

Reaching your Goals: Self-Improvement and Success

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Recognize your own path – when it comes to reaching your goals and improving your life, you need to be the leader. You are in control of what you want and your goals should come down to you and you alone. Just because your Dad wants you to be a lawyer and your Mom wants you to have 5 children does not mean this is what you have to do- it’s your life and thus, you are the boss.

Disassociate yourself from negativity – in the same way positive thoughts lead to positive results, negative thoughts leads to negative results. Negativity may be all around you- bitchy co-workers; unhappy neighbors; a depressing partner. Disassociate yourself from those types of people. You are in a happy, positive place – no negativity allowed.

Define your goals clearly – goals are what make life worth living. Think long and hard about what you want to accomplish and how you are going to get there. Make steps, include financial costs and put in as much detail as possible – the more defined your goals are, the easier they will be to achieve (and the more rewarding when you get there).

Push jealously aside – when you watch someone on a parallel path reaching their goals a lot sooner, it can be hard to sit back and be happy for them. But this is what you are going to have to do. Getting rid of this envy and resentment is a big hurdle in improving your self. But, once you overcome these feelings, you are a lot closer to reaching a state of Zen-like success.

Use visual reminders as boosters – being able to clearly see your goal can help motivate you and keep you focused on your game plan. Many people will post a picture of their ‘dream body’ on the fridge when they are trying to lose weight. Others will use their ‘dream car’ as their computer screen saver at work when those tough days get them down. A visual reminder can boost your motivation and drive to succeed.

See yourself at the end – as mentioned above, visualization is vital to reach your goal and improve your self. This is why it’s important to visualize yourself there. See yourself fitting into that size 10. Feel the breeze on your cheeks as you drive that sports car. Seeing is believing.

Use timelines – tracking your success can help you put your goal into perspective and see how far you’ve already come. It’s important for self-improvement that you recognize your feats and be proud of what you have doing, or are planning to do.

Reward yourself on the way – be happy with your progress. Whether your goal will take you twenty days or twenty years doesn’t matter- the important thing is that you are doing it. You are getting there. To keep yourself motivated every step of the way, you need to reward yourself with small treats. Be proud of how far you have come and prepare for the journey ahead.

Make room for failure – it can’t be a smooth road all the time- there has to be plenty of bumps along the way. In fact, it is these bumps that make the road worth traveling. Failure is a big part of our lives and we need to learn to live, love and laugh at failure rather than give in to it. Henry Ford once said that every failed attempt is just another opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently. Failure is experience and experience is power.

 

 

23 Oct

Self-Improvement Tips For Your Spirit, Mind and Soul

Being healthy is not merely about your body. In order to completely improve yourself, it’s important to boost your mind, spirit and soul as well.

Develop tolerance and patience – people make mistakes, that’s a fact of life. The first step to discovering peace with society and improving yourself is simply by developing an understanding for those things around you that you can’t control or change.

Meditate – you need to make time to meditate for 15 minutes each day. If you don’t like the thought of meditating, practice taking deep breaths once a day. This could easily assist with circulation and decrease your measure of stress.

Volunteer – volunteering for a good cause is not only beneficial to your psyche, but also for others. Find something you are excited about and look towards volunteering your time or some money. There are so many charities and organizations that would actually love your help such as the SPCA, Breast Cancer Awareness and the Salvation Army.

Discover The Secret – The Secret is not something that everyone agrees with. However, a number of the messages are vital to your self-improvement. You control your own future, no one else does! For more self-improvement tips, consider exploring other spiritual self-help books which could provide relief
for your mind and spirit.

Write down your thoughts – writing not only serves to stimulates your brain’s activity, additionally it works like a great de-stressor. Start a journal so you can keep track of your thoughts whether you are feeling down or not. Invest in a well-made journal to enhance your creative juices.

Read – Find some time on the weekend to curl up on the couch with a good book. This simple pleasure is not just relaxing, it can also be stimulating by taking you to a place you might have never been before.

Think Positive – Positive thoughts lead to positive outcomes. Surround yourself with positive energy and this energetic vibe will of course be infused into your lifestyle and daily habits.

Plan ahead – there are various things in life that just happen. They can be annoying and/or frustrating but that’s just the way it is. This might include a traffic jam on your way to work or a long line at the post
office. If you are prepared for these factors, then you will be able to handle these annoying situations a lot better. Consider giving yourself an extra 20 minutes to arrive to work, just in case your run into the rush hour traffic. It’s healthier for your psyche to be sitting in your car thinking “good thing I planned ahead and left 20 minutes early” rather than stressing about being late for work or an appointment.

Do something for others – selfishness and self-improvement never mix. Taking others into consideration will benefit yourself and you can share your knowledge & wealth others.  Boosting your sense of self while helping someone else. The small things can really make a significant difference in how you see your self worth, and lifting other peoples moods.

Stimulate your brain – grab a crossword puzzle or enjoy the Sudoku in your morning newspaper. These fun little games are quick to do while keeping your mind sharp.

Find daily alone time – between work, the kids, your spouse and your friends, it may seem like you don’t get a single moment to yourself. Find that moment, it is very important! This could be as easy as shutting the doors and taking a 20 minute bath. It is important for you to find time to decompress, reflect and relax and it really is best done without any distractions.

As you can see there are many ways to improve yourself & others at the same time. Never stop learning & improving your skills to be healthy all the way around. In this way, you could possibly encourage others to do the same.

06 Sep

How positive affirmations can change your life

Having a positive attitude is the key to being happy and leading a successful life, our thoughts play a huge role in how we feel and positive thinking leads to a confident person happy in life, while negativity leads to low self-esteem and you missing out on so much in life. We so often talk ourselves out of things without even realizing we are doing so, everyday hundreds of negative thoughts drift freely through our mind, we put ourselves down too much and sow the seeds of doubt. There is a small simple tool that you can use throughout the day to help to change these negative thoughts and instil a more positive way of thinking; using daily positive affirmations can change your life drastically for the better. They can make you more confident, more aware, more sure of yourself and change your life in many more aspects for the better.

What are positive affirmations?

Positive affirmations can be used throughout the day anywhere and at anytime you need them, the more you use them the easier positive thoughts will take over negative ones and you will see benefits happening in your life. An affirmation is a simple technique that is used to change negative self-talk that we are rarely even aware of doing, into looking at your life with a more positive attitude. Most of us have for many years bombarded ourselves with negative thoughts so changing your thoughts and the way you think won’t happen overnight but if you stick with affirmations they will work once you have retrained your way of thinking. There are many different affirmation techniques for dealing with different situations in life and the most popular and successful are listed below.

The mirror technique

This technique helps you to appreciate yourself and develop self-awareness and self-esteem, you should stand in front of a mirror, preferably a full length one in either just your underwear or better still naked. Start at your head and working down your body say out loud what it is you like about areas of your body, for example you could say “I like the way my hair shines, the slight differences in color where the light hits it” or “ my eyes are a lovely shade of _ _ _ _. They sparkle and glint; my eyes are a wonderful feature” take the time and go slowly over all your body building up a more positive image of yourself.

The anywhere technique

This technique can be used anywhere and whenever you catch yourself thinking a negative thought, when you realize you are having a negative thought think of yourself turning down a volume knob inside your head so that you turn it down low enough so as not to hear it any longer. Then think a positive affirmation to replace the negative and turn the volume back up repeating it to yourself.

The trashcan technique

If you have negative thoughts write them down on a scrap of paper, screw the paper up into a ball and throw it into the trashcan, by doing this you are telling yourself these thoughts are nothing but rubbish and that’s where they belong.

The meditation technique

Find somewhere quiet where you able to relax for 5 or 10 minutes close your eyes and let your mid empty of all thoughts and feelings. Begin to repeat your affirmation to yourself over and over again while concentrating on the words you are repeating and believe in what you are saying.

 

14 Aug

Why Affirmations Are Important For Inner Peace

 

Affirmations are self-talk statements & better presented to the subconscious. These fresh images are viewed as “credible” by the subconscious & are placed in the area of subconscious having to do with the power to enhance the ability to pull up particular powerful memories with less work. Through this special imagery a person can develop the inner tools for the correct mindset for gaining inner peace, letting the memories and images be transported to the here and now where they’re used for enhancing mindset which is crucial for inner peace.

 

Why Do We Need Affirmations For Inner Peace?

Oftentimes individuals believe these good and beneficial self talk memories are a false belief and don’t exist, but the subconscious recognizes where they’re located and will pull them ahead for inner peace.  These forms of affirmations make fresh neural tracts in the mind, enhancing the ability to “see” these fresh powerful images. Stale images related to negativity, weaknesses, deficiency of initiative, frail goal images and the ability to develop inner peace are decreased. When the mind discovers new affirmations the subconscious sees them as “tangible.”

You’ve likely observed a common element in those who are successful in business and in life. These winners and successful individuals tend to be enthusiastic and zealous, in all aspects of their lives. This exuberance can be infectious, and it tends to rub off on all those persons around them. A positive attitude and the might to turn that attitude into results are crucial to inner peace, both in business and life. You see, a positive attitude is a valuable asset, no matter what you are trying to do. You really ought to assume the habit of doing regular positive affirmations. Making positive affirmations a part of your daily function is a great way to alter your thoughts and help yourself be more peaceful.

It’s never too early or too late to begin this cycle of positive affirmations, and even those just beginning down a new road may benefit from a positive attitude. Even if the thing you’re trying to accomplish seems insignificant and you are not yet spiritually enlightened, it’s crucial to display a positive attitude, and not let negativity sneak in to steal your thunder. Remember that some of the most successful people began as not spiritually enlightened and worked their way into having inner peace. It truly is possible to work your way up from being not spiritually enlightened to being peaceful, but without positive affirmations and a victorious attitude, this move won’t be possible.

Steady positive affirmations are extremely crucial for those people who want to develop inner peace. Building inner peace is never easy, but it’s crucial to remember that those around you, from people you’re involved with to clients to competitors, feel your attitude, and utilize it as a cue. If you’re constantly complaining about the deficiency in knowing how to have spiritually enlightenment, the people around you will be less than energized. If, on the other hand, you’re constantly supplying positive affirmations to yourself and the people around you, even in the hardest of times, they’ll see your exuberance, learn from it, and utilize it as a cue to see you as truly peaceful. It truly does all come down to attitude; a positive mental attitude and positive affirmations can help your inner peace in ways too many to mention here.

 

02 May

How Your Emotions Determine Your Riches?

So you want to be rich, but how well are you doing at achieving your goal? You may be surprised to learn that your own emotions are what are either holding you back or creating the riches you desire. Let’s explain further.

According to hundreds of others who have created success and become rich, you must make your sure that your desires are clearly stated. You should also make sure to write down your desires. In addition to determining your desires, you need to have the persistence to carry out the instructions to achieve your desires.

Remember, your subconscious mind is always functioning even when you make no effort to influence it. If you want to benefit your subconscious mind, you need to make sure you are feeding it positive emotions and not negative ones. If thoughts of fear or poverty enter your subconscious that’s the life you going to live. You are the master of your impulses and you must learn to feed them the desired food to ensure you get the desired results.

Your subconscious is never idle. If you don’t take the time to send your desires to your subconscious, it will feed on the negative thoughts that go through your mind. Both negative and positive impulses will reach your mind and create your destiny.

By using your controlled imagination you can create plans and focus on purpose that will lead you to success. Everything that we do starts with an impulse. Humankind creates nothing that does not begin with a thought. When you add in the imagination, you can train your subconscious to create the success you desire.

Be careful because the mind is easily influenced by impulses or any thought that is mixed with emotion or feeling. In fact, there is a great deal of research that would indicate the only thoughts that become actions are those that have emotion associated with them.

You are writing the script and the audience is your subconscious. The response of your audience will depend on the emotional message you deliver and how you influence your subconscious audience. You need to speak the language it can understand.

There are seven positive emotions that are key to your subconscious. They are:
* Desire
* Faith
* Hope
* Love
* Sex
* Romance
* Enthusiasm

There are others but these are the most powerful if you want to see your desires become reality.
There are also seven negative emotions that you need to avoid. They are:
* Jealousy
* Fear
* Hatred
* Greed
* Revenge
* Superstition
* Anger

If you get caught up in these emotions, you will never reach your desires. You will never become rich. So how will you handle your emotions? Are you going to make it to rich?

 

18 Apr

Building Courage to Improve your Personal Life

When you build courage, you start to improve your personal life. Building courage will help you take risks to a brighter future that you ordinarily would not take. When you build courage, you put fear behind you. courage is the process of admitting that you have fears, yet you are willing to find a way to defeat those fears and not allow these fears to take control of you. It is ok to experience your fears at appropriate times. For instance, if a bus is heading in your path, swerving you have a right to fear. There is nothing wrong with healthy fear. The problem is you have to put healthy fear in its place and unhealthy fear out of your life.

Once you build courage, you will learn to self-direct you in life. You will learn to accept punishment and rewards gracefully. A courageous person will often feel motivated to accept blame and responsibility while reviewing their actions and using what they learn to move forward. Courageous people will step to the front, rather than stepping back when opportunities come their way. On the other hand, a courageous person will step back and take a view at his or her mistakes gracefully.

Sometimes the courageous person is spontaneous. It is never good to plan each day, because no one knows what the next day will bring in. Think about it. How many times have you planned something all to see it shatter in your face the next day. For instance, I plan to go to the ballgame tomorrow. Come tomorrow a blizzard, hurricane, tornado, wind storm, or rainstorm could change your mind. You planned, but did you plan for the weather. Did you make a backup plan in case your first plan failed. As you can see, planning is not always in your favor, which is why courageous people are sometimes spontaneous.

A person willing to improve their life will relax. This person will relax even when plans fail. For instance, if it stormed the next day the person will find something else to occupy his or her time and feel just as happy about joining this adventure.

To become successful and improve your life you will need to learn how to trust you. When you trust you, you can trust others as well. Unfortunately, we live in a world where trust is hard to find, yet when you trust you, you can’t blame others when things go wrong.

Improving your life includes using your creative and critical mind. When you can create new ideas, you are off to the road to success. You have many options in this world, it takes you to pull up resources to find those options.

Sometimes in life, we feel uncomfortable. In fact, this is common. Are you willing to accept your discomforts? Perhaps at an interview you feel misplaced. Are you willing to accept this discomfort and find a way to deliver a good speech to impress the interviewer. Alternatively, are you willing to allow negative energies cost you the job.

Do you accept?
Do you accept the things you cannot change? Do you accept the things you have control over? Do you accept other people regardless of how these people act? Do you accept you for who you are? Do you accept the changes that life brings your way?

Acceptance is your key to happiness. When you can learn to accept the good with the bad, you can learn how to live happier and improve your personal life. If you cannot accept however, well, reread this article again.

15 Apr

Who’s The Boss? 10 Ways To Start Taking Control

 

At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) have nothing to do with one another. But many of us with ADD develop negative thinking patterns because we become frustrated by our challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even harder for us to manage those challenges and move forward.

Practicing positive thinking allows people with ADD to focus on our strengths and accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck. The following tips provide practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:

1. Take Good Care of Yourself
It’s much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.

2. Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For
Stresses and challenges don’t seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things will make a huge difference.

3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions
A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking, but our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member’s bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. Don’t waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.

4. Refrain from Using Absolutes
Have you ever told a partner “You’re ALWAYS late!” or complained to a friend “You NEVER call me!”? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like ‘always’ and ‘never’ makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of delivering.

5. Detach From Negative Thoughts
Your thoughts can’t hold any power over you if you don’t judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don’t follow it.

6. Squash the “ANTs”
In his book “Change Your Brain, Change Your Life,” Dr. Daniel Amen talks about “ANTs” – Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like “Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me,” or “The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!” When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!

7. Practice Lovin’, Touchin’ & Squeezin’ (Your Friends and Family)
You don’t have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn’t touch!

8. Increase Your Social Activity
By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. Surround yourself with healthy, happy people, and their positive energy will affect you in a positive way!

9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help another Person
Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.

10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Rumination
If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different. Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It’s never productive, because it’s not rational or solution-oriented, it’s just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment – go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.

When it comes to the corporate world, protocol is pretty much the religion. To know the things needed to do are the basics of productivity, but interaction and having a steady mind makes up the entire thing to true productivity. There are those who seem to work well even under pressure, but they’re uncommon ones and we are human and imperfect. To get these little things like stress under our skins won’t solve our problems. Sometimes it takes a bit of courage to admit that we’re turning to be workaholics than tell ourselves that we’re not doing our best.

12 Apr

What Is Happiness?

 

What Is Happiness?

Different individuals have different feelings on what makes people happy. Some would say it’s getting a raise. Others would say it’s having a marvelous and meaningful life. There have even been rather a few who have more particular answers pertaining to their personal life.

All of these answers strike a chord, naturally. While everyone has their own belief, some universal matters like the ones below might be conceived as what makes individuals happy.

1. Family and friends

Among the things that make individuals happy and pleased is the company of loved ones and friends. The emotional back up these individuals give you is priceless.

You probably don’t enjoy being smothered by your mother or your father, but attending family reunions or getting together for a picnic or a cook out once in a while hearts up your happiness level. Having individuals around you that you love, trust, cherish and care for makes you feel that you’re not alone.

2. Giving back

Assisting others, whether in small or big ways, elates a person’s spirit like nothing else. Doing something for nothing may be completely opposite of what you’ve been taught, but acts of generosity and unselfishness always leave you with a warm feeling.

Sharing your wealthiness or time with others puts you in the position to encounter the same positive energy back from other people. Likewise, making a difference in someone else’s life has a way of returning to you.

3. Meaningful work

A job with an elevated salary isn’t always what makes individuals happy. As a matter of fact, these jobs often make individuals miserable (unless your heart is in what you do). Regrettably, not everybody can afford to go after their dream job. And not everybody finds meaning in their work.

You may try to correct for this by volunteering at hospitals or environmental campaigns in your spare time. By discovering meaning in what you do, you’ll feel accomplished and have a purposefulness.

4. Freedom

It’s impossible to become truly happy when you don’t have even a small ounce of freedom in your life. Whether it’s being able to convey yourself creatively or being able to make a choice for yourself, personal freedom is crucial. Suppressing yourself only generates a lot of damaging emotions and discontent.

5. Success

Who doesn’t prefer to succeed? Individuals who have accomplished personal or professional success in their life are more prepared to go after other goals and try fresh experiences. They become more contented with the centering their life is taking and are generally happier in the long-run.