30 Apr

You Can Design Your Life

The other day, after looking at my calendar and seeing how jam packed the upcoming week, month, year was, I started to feel panicky. The days are full. Completely full. They are the kind of days where I wonder how it’s all going to get done. They are the kind of days where I know it can’t all possibly get done. They are filled with to-dos, check lists, calls, and emails, writing deadlines, and work, work, and more work. They are the days where I move from one task to another – mindful of getting each one finished but not particularly mindful of the bigger picture and how I fit into it and how this is all part of my purpose. I didn’t see much downtime on the schedule or much self care or much space for being. And I could feel my chest begin to tighten.

Sometimes, in these moments of overwhelm, I need to move away from it before I completely go into hysterics. I can feel my soul crying out that it needs me to slow down, and so I either lie down and pull the covers up or go to the couch, wrap myself in a blanket, and turn on the TV – which is what I did on this particular day.

Oprah was on, and she mentioned that years ago she was telling Jerry Seinfeld that she was really tired, that she wasn’t looking forward to going back to her show (which at that point still had several years left to be on the air). He told her to stop whining and realize that she had the power to design her own life. Because of that conversation, she made the decision to end her show and to create space in her life to do the things that she wanted to do – the things that fed her soul.

A light bulb went on in my head, and I realized that this was the exact message that I needed to hear right then. I, too, have the power to design my life. We all do. If there is something that I don’t like about it, I can change it. Maybe not immediately, but I can begin taking steps to remedy whatever is hurting my soul.

For me, not having enough time to myself – time to go within, write, reflect, and BE – was weighing heavy on my heart and making me not super excited about my life in general. When I looked at the schedule, I was missing from it. And I knew that this was something that I had the power to change.

I create my schedule. And so if I’m not on it, I can change that. I can move appointments around or shift how I run my business in order to make sure that my own needs are met. If I look at something and feel that it no longer feeds my soul, I can take it out of the schedule or at least make plans to eliminate it in the near future.

This is something that I knew, but I hadn’t taken action on. And sometimes, all it takes is hearing it from a loving messenger (for me, in the form of Oprah) to wake us up and help us to take action.

I hope that I can serve as a loving messenger for you right now.

Is there any part of your life that you aren’t happy about – that you would like to change? Would you be willing to believe that you have the power to design your own life – that you can start right now to begin making changes to create whatever kind of life you want? 

You can start slowly – begin with awareness. Start by just imagining what your ideal life would look like. And then take baby steps to begin making it your reality.

I’m looking at my schedule in a completely different way now. And I love seeing that I’m back on it – big pockets of downtime where I can have some space and time for myself.

That feels amazing. And I’ll be much more present for others when I’ve honored my own needs in this way.

I hope you’ll take some time to reflect on your own life and see how you would like to design it. It matters because you matter. 

Hugs,

Jodi

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Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

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27 Apr

Heal Through Lucid Dreaming

To the ordinary man a dream is what happens when one goes to sleep. If the dream is pleasant then it remains as termed, but if it is unpleasant then it’s renamed as a nightmare. Now there is something new referred to as a lucid dream.

 

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23 Apr

Are You Dreaming Your Way to Riches?

From rags to riches – it happens more often than you might think. In fact, it could be you! Are you content with life as it is or do you find yourself dreaming your way to riches? If you answered yes, then you are definitely on the right track because without your imagination – without dreaming – you are not going to get there!

Have you ever wondered why some people with equal opportunities land up in such different places – one person is living in wealth with all the comforts of home, while the other person struggles to even pay their rent. Why the difference? It’s really quite simple, yet for far too many it remains a mystery – it’s all about what you are thinking.

If that sounds confusing, you aren’t alone! The trouble is we actually create our reality but what we are thinking and dreaming. Here’s a question. When you are talking with friends or family, how do you describe yourself? Your life? Are you always talking about how you struggle? Are you saying things like “I was never meant to be rich?” or are you talking about how successful you are how great life is how you have so much abundance. Which describes you? If you are the latter, you are in great shape. However, if you are the person who sees yourself as struggling, that’s exactly where you will stay.

We all have ideas from our childhoods implanted deep into our subconscious and if you want to change your future, you need to reprogram your subconscious. You need to see yourself as wealthy, having all that you desire, creating the riches that will fulfill your dreams.

Every thought that makes its way to your subconscious through any one of your senses is recorded and filed in your brain. You can voluntarily implant any thought you would like into your mind and your subconscious will act on it. Your subconscious will dominate your desires and it will direct you. You have complete control over your subconscious mind and so you set yourself up for failure or success – for living the life of a poor person or the life of a rich person.

You simply need the stimuli to influence your subconscious mind to go in the direction you desire. You simply need to imprint your desires in your mind and then have the faith that your desires will become your reality. So start dreaming big today and tomorrow you can enjoy the riches.

20 Apr

What Makes You Different?

Article by Jodi Chapman

 

I love learning people’s quirks and idiosyncrasies: the things that make them unique, the things that you wouldn’t expect, the things that take them out of the box that you may have been putting them in without even realizing it. Those things.

I recently asked a friend what her favorite music was – we’ve been meeting every week online for almost a year and I was surprised that I didn’t know this about her. She said Heavy Metal, which I never would have guessed. I love that. She is soft spoken and spiritual, and the thought of seeing her drive down the freeway with this loud music playing made me so happy! I loved being surprised in this way, and it really got me thinking about these little preferences that each of us has that add up to create our whole – that add up to create who we are.

I started to wonder how much I really knew about my friends. How much did I assume and how much was true? How much did they fit into the mold that I had created for them without even realizing it, and how much did I fit into their subconscious mold of me?

And trust me, none of us are putting our friends into boxes consciously. I would guess that we’re not thinking about it at all – it’s a mix of our brains wanting to sort of “figure people out” and place them into the right places and society letting us know that if someone is “this” way, then they must also be “that” way.

But I’m learning that, if we are really sharing our true selves, we will never completely fit into the box that society or anyone else has created for us. We will always have some part of us (if we allow it to come to the surface) that is unique and that perhaps goes against the norm.

And I would love for all of us to feel safe in sharing these parts of ourselves. The parts that we normally wouldn’t share because we feel silly or embarrassed or uncomfortable or vulnerable. Those parts.

Much of who we are does fit in with what others would expect, and so I think – because of our innate need to be liked – we give these parts more airtime and share them more with others. But, that sort of casts a shadow on the parts that maybe don’t fit in as easily, and my concern is that – without our even knowing it – we feel a sense of shame surrounding these parts of ourselves (even though there is absolutely nothing wrong with them).

So here’s what I suggest: I would love for all of us to leave a comment sharing how we may differ from what others would expect. How we don’t fit into the box. How we’re unique. We can share something about ourselves that might surprise others to learn.

Because in doing so, we’ll allow ourselves to be the entire soul and the entire human and the entire amazing person that we are. We’ll allow all of our parts to blend together, and we’ll feel proud and stand a little taller sharing the bits that we normally would have left in the shadows.

I’ve found that when we start shedding light on the parts of ourselves that we’ve kept in the dark, the less power they hold over us. The more we’re apt to bravely share our entire self with the world. The more we’ll see that it’s completely okay.

I will start by sharing my own list, and I hope that you’ll join me by writing yours, too. (Since I’m pretty much an open book, it’s going to be a challenge for me to come up with things that I haven’t already shared!) :)

Things about me that might surprise you:

1. I swear. A lot. Not in a mean way, but more in an excited way. In a “This F*^$*%$ Rocks!” way. I do keep swearing out of my writing, for the most part. And you’ll rarely hear me swear in a group session. I mainly just swear at home – around Dan and my closest friends. But it’s a part of me that most people don’t know about.

2. This isn’t anything scandalous, but it’s something that not a lot of people in the online world know about me. Unless I am chatting with someone over Skype or filming a video, I never wear makeup or do my hair or wear anything other than comfy clothes. I am not one to dress up – I wear jeans or pajama pants – preferably with my fluffy robe or a cozy, over-sized sweater. I never wear heals or dresses, unless I’m going to a wedding. And even though I used to own a jewelry company, I never wear it – except my wedding ring (which I never wear in the house).

3. I’m extremely afraid of spiders. It doesn’t make any sense because I’m not afraid of other similar crawling bugs. I dream about them often – pretty much the only nightmares that I’ve ever had involved spiders. Huge ones.

4. While much of what I watch on TV most likely fits in with what you would expect (eg., Super Soul Sunday, Lifeclass, and Long Island Medium), I watch some shows that you may not expect: Keeping up with the Kardashians, Drop Dead Diva, and any singing competition show. I love unwinding at the end of a long day, and these shows help me do exactly that. They are my guilty pleasures.

5. I rarely leave the house and rarely drive. I love my cocoon that I have created, and there has to be a good reason for me to want to leave it. That’s not to say that it’s not fun when I go out and shop or go on a date with Dan, but there’s something so wonderful about coming home again.

6. I don’t use a cell phone. While I do have one in the car for emergencies, I never am in the car so I never need to use it. Because I’m always home, I just don’t see the point. When I do go out, it’s really nice to disconnect and not be available to anyone. There’s something really decadent about it, actually.

7. I’m known in my family as “The Chihuahua.” While I may be petite and appear soft spoken at times, I have a primal side that comes out when someone in my family or inner circle is being mistreated or threatened in some way. I’m very loyal and very protective, and a yappy, “in your face” side shows up in these situations. Thankfully, I haven’t had to use this side very often, but I’m glad that she’s there – ready to protect myself and my loved ones when needed.

8. I eat foods that most people wouldn’t want to eat. My diet is a bit extreme. It didn’t start out that way, but it’s definitely evolved into a quirk. It’s been gradual – from becoming vegetarian to vegan to bringing eggs back in to taking out almost everything that was processed or that contained wheat or sugar or chemicals of any kind. I started eating based on how I felt afterwards, and I found that my body wanted whole foods that were natural and fresh. It definitely takes more time to prepare food in this way, but feeling great is worth it. (A huge thank you to Dan for all that he does to help both of us stay healthy.)

9. I’m pretty funny. (At least I think so.) :) Seriously though, while I do spend a lot of my time thinking and feeling and helping others, I am a great laughter. I love people who can make me laugh. I love watching animals do silly things. I love comedies. I love to laugh. It’s such a great release.

10. I had no idea that my life would turn into what it has. I’m someone who spent so many years shying away from the spotlight and from being seen, and so I still pinch myself when I look at how “out there” I am – how many beautiful souls I get to connect with – how awesomely expansive my life has become. I’ve previously shared how I used to be a skeptic, but I think it’s worth repeating. Just three short years ago, I wasn’t open spiritually. At all. I was in the dark. And just by being willing to trust the universe and be led in the direction my soul was asking me to go in, everything changed. I spend time each day thanking my lucky stars (and my angels, and my spirit guides, and God) for this miracle.

I’m sure there’s a ton more, but this is enough for now! :)

I can’t wait to learn more about you!

 

Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

 

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18 Apr

Building Courage to Improve your Personal Life

When you build courage, you start to improve your personal life. Building courage will help you take risks to a brighter future that you ordinarily would not take. When you build courage, you put fear behind you. courage is the process of admitting that you have fears, yet you are willing to find a way to defeat those fears and not allow these fears to take control of you. It is ok to experience your fears at appropriate times. For instance, if a bus is heading in your path, swerving you have a right to fear. There is nothing wrong with healthy fear. The problem is you have to put healthy fear in its place and unhealthy fear out of your life.

Once you build courage, you will learn to self-direct you in life. You will learn to accept punishment and rewards gracefully. A courageous person will often feel motivated to accept blame and responsibility while reviewing their actions and using what they learn to move forward. Courageous people will step to the front, rather than stepping back when opportunities come their way. On the other hand, a courageous person will step back and take a view at his or her mistakes gracefully.

Sometimes the courageous person is spontaneous. It is never good to plan each day, because no one knows what the next day will bring in. Think about it. How many times have you planned something all to see it shatter in your face the next day. For instance, I plan to go to the ballgame tomorrow. Come tomorrow a blizzard, hurricane, tornado, wind storm, or rainstorm could change your mind. You planned, but did you plan for the weather. Did you make a backup plan in case your first plan failed. As you can see, planning is not always in your favor, which is why courageous people are sometimes spontaneous.

A person willing to improve their life will relax. This person will relax even when plans fail. For instance, if it stormed the next day the person will find something else to occupy his or her time and feel just as happy about joining this adventure.

To become successful and improve your life you will need to learn how to trust you. When you trust you, you can trust others as well. Unfortunately, we live in a world where trust is hard to find, yet when you trust you, you can’t blame others when things go wrong.

Improving your life includes using your creative and critical mind. When you can create new ideas, you are off to the road to success. You have many options in this world, it takes you to pull up resources to find those options.

Sometimes in life, we feel uncomfortable. In fact, this is common. Are you willing to accept your discomforts? Perhaps at an interview you feel misplaced. Are you willing to accept this discomfort and find a way to deliver a good speech to impress the interviewer. Alternatively, are you willing to allow negative energies cost you the job.

Do you accept?
Do you accept the things you cannot change? Do you accept the things you have control over? Do you accept other people regardless of how these people act? Do you accept you for who you are? Do you accept the changes that life brings your way?

Acceptance is your key to happiness. When you can learn to accept the good with the bad, you can learn how to live happier and improve your personal life. If you cannot accept however, well, reread this article again.

15 Apr

Who’s The Boss? 10 Ways To Start Taking Control

 

At first glance, it would seem that positive thinking and Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) have nothing to do with one another. But many of us with ADD develop negative thinking patterns because we become frustrated by our challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even harder for us to manage those challenges and move forward.

Practicing positive thinking allows people with ADD to focus on our strengths and accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck. The following tips provide practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:

1. Take Good Care of Yourself
It’s much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.

2. Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For
Stresses and challenges don’t seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things will make a huge difference.

3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions
A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking, but our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member’s bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. Don’t waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.

4. Refrain from Using Absolutes
Have you ever told a partner “You’re ALWAYS late!” or complained to a friend “You NEVER call me!”? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like ‘always’ and ‘never’ makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of delivering.

5. Detach From Negative Thoughts
Your thoughts can’t hold any power over you if you don’t judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don’t follow it.

6. Squash the “ANTs”
In his book “Change Your Brain, Change Your Life,” Dr. Daniel Amen talks about “ANTs” – Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like “Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me,” or “The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!” When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!

7. Practice Lovin’, Touchin’ & Squeezin’ (Your Friends and Family)
You don’t have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn’t touch!

8. Increase Your Social Activity
By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. Surround yourself with healthy, happy people, and their positive energy will affect you in a positive way!

9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help another Person
Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.

10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Rumination
If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different. Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It’s never productive, because it’s not rational or solution-oriented, it’s just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment – go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.

When it comes to the corporate world, protocol is pretty much the religion. To know the things needed to do are the basics of productivity, but interaction and having a steady mind makes up the entire thing to true productivity. There are those who seem to work well even under pressure, but they’re uncommon ones and we are human and imperfect. To get these little things like stress under our skins won’t solve our problems. Sometimes it takes a bit of courage to admit that we’re turning to be workaholics than tell ourselves that we’re not doing our best.

12 Apr

What Is Happiness?

 

What Is Happiness?

Different individuals have different feelings on what makes people happy. Some would say it’s getting a raise. Others would say it’s having a marvelous and meaningful life. There have even been rather a few who have more particular answers pertaining to their personal life.

All of these answers strike a chord, naturally. While everyone has their own belief, some universal matters like the ones below might be conceived as what makes individuals happy.

1. Family and friends

Among the things that make individuals happy and pleased is the company of loved ones and friends. The emotional back up these individuals give you is priceless.

You probably don’t enjoy being smothered by your mother or your father, but attending family reunions or getting together for a picnic or a cook out once in a while hearts up your happiness level. Having individuals around you that you love, trust, cherish and care for makes you feel that you’re not alone.

2. Giving back

Assisting others, whether in small or big ways, elates a person’s spirit like nothing else. Doing something for nothing may be completely opposite of what you’ve been taught, but acts of generosity and unselfishness always leave you with a warm feeling.

Sharing your wealthiness or time with others puts you in the position to encounter the same positive energy back from other people. Likewise, making a difference in someone else’s life has a way of returning to you.

3. Meaningful work

A job with an elevated salary isn’t always what makes individuals happy. As a matter of fact, these jobs often make individuals miserable (unless your heart is in what you do). Regrettably, not everybody can afford to go after their dream job. And not everybody finds meaning in their work.

You may try to correct for this by volunteering at hospitals or environmental campaigns in your spare time. By discovering meaning in what you do, you’ll feel accomplished and have a purposefulness.

4. Freedom

It’s impossible to become truly happy when you don’t have even a small ounce of freedom in your life. Whether it’s being able to convey yourself creatively or being able to make a choice for yourself, personal freedom is crucial. Suppressing yourself only generates a lot of damaging emotions and discontent.

5. Success

Who doesn’t prefer to succeed? Individuals who have accomplished personal or professional success in their life are more prepared to go after other goals and try fresh experiences. They become more contented with the centering their life is taking and are generally happier in the long-run.

08 Apr

Ripples of Love – Free Printable Poster!

I believe that we can change the world. 

I do.

And it’s not necessarily with what we say or what we do. It’s not necessarily with our actions or our accomplishments.

Our ability to change the world goes much deeper than that – it goes all the way down to the core of our being.

Our ability to change the world resides in whether we allow love to flow out of our hearts and into the lives of every person that we encounter.

That’s all. And that’s everything. Truly.

I believe that we each have this amazing light at our core – this inner flame that is fed by love. And when it’s ignited, it has the ability to light the entire universe.

And I believe that it’s our choice if we will reject this love or feed this love.

Imagine living in a world where you were greeted with love, where you received endless love everywhere you went, where you were constantly filled with love by everyone you interacted with.

How would you feel?

Loved, right?

I would imagine that you would feel full and grounded and light and free all at the same time. I would imagine that you would be so excited to take this love that you’ve received and share it with others – to allow it to ripple out into the entire world – reaching one person at a time.

I would imagine that the way you saw the world would begin to change. And I would imagine that the way you saw others would begin to change. And I would imagine that the way others saw you would begin to change as well.

It starts with love. And it ends with love. 

It’s all about love. 

That’s all. And that’s everything. Truly.

I know that it isn’t always easy to open up to love. I know that it can hurt horribly when we get our hearts broken. I know, truly I do.

But I also know that love is everything – it’s our purpose, our reason for living, our essence, our way that our soul speaks to us, our connection with others and with the entire universe. 

And if we have closed off our lifeline to all that is, then we aren’t truly living. We are simply existing.

And I want more than that for you, for me, for all of us.

I want each of us to fully experience life – to fully experience love.

And it starts with one smile, with one act of kindness, with one step into the land of vulnerability.

This is where I live, and it’s honestly a wonderful place.

Are things in this special space perfect all of the time? Of course not. My heart still gets broken, and I still shy away from being so open from time to time. But I always come back because I know how wonderful I feel when I am here.

And I know how many lives my love can touch when I allow myself to be in this love-filled space.

I have seen the ripple. And it’s absolutely amazing. I have seen lives change because I am living with an open heart. And so I know that this is true. I know that we can put so much more love into the world simply by choosing to.

I know it.

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I created a poster to encourage each of us to continue putting ripples of love into the world!

You can click here to print it out. It measures 8×10 and is saved at high resolution.

It’s my gift to you because I have seen how powerful of a healer and a connector love can truly be. I know how much my own life changed when I opened my heart and let the love pour out, and it’s my hope that this will help each of us remember how powerful we are and how our love has the ability to change the world.

 

Jodi Chapman is a bestselling author, an award-winning blogger, and a soulful community builder. She lives her life with love and faith in the driver’s seat, and she hopes to leave a trail of inspiration wherever she goes. She believes that we each have the ability to hear our soul’s whisper and create our best lives. She would love to connect with you!

 

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